Thursday, November 5, 2009

I'm surviving

being a "single mom." Chris has been traveling lots lately beginning with our trip to Jackson a couple weeks ago. Next week he'll be gone for a couple of days and then hopefully will be around more until busy season hits. At first I like having the nights off to do whatever I want spending lots of time playing with my photos and uploading them here. All guilt free. But towards the end of the week, having to do it all on my own, gets old..........the disciplining, the bedtime routine, the having to be at two places at one time thing. Instead of being gun ho about the list of things I have to do.........I start staring a lot at the things I have to do, instead of actually doing them. And then things start piling up and bugging me. And of course there's the loneliness. After a couple of hours of me time and no Chris around, I start missing the boys instead of enjoying the peace and quiet.

Things I'm grateful for:

I really enjoy the time we spend reading right before bed, sometimes even for a couple of hours. I don't want to imagine the day I won't have that time anymore.

The boys have been super helpful. They're really improving on doing chores including not whining about it. I'm trying to teach them that we all pitch in and we all have to learn to do a good job at what we do. They are amazing at cleaning my floors including that lovely puddle behind the toilet. I rarely ever have to anymore and now that they clean it, they haven't had as many misfires. :0)

We had parent teacher conferences this week and the boys are doing awesome. I was wondering about Vy's hyperactivity in class and asked his teacher about it and she said "I haven't noticed that." One interesting thing she said was, "He likes to hang out with the boys that are more timid and quiet, like he is." I just about fell out of my chair. Timid and quiet are not two words I would use for him. One of us has got him wrong :0) and it's not me. But, I think Vy has a cooperative nature to him and he also wants to do what is right or be pleasing. And having a handful of girls in his class who have been causing problems probably makes him look like an angel, which he can be. When I started volunteering in his class I was pleased to see him following instructions, SITTING STILL, and being quiet. Yay. As for Toki, it's always been the same....he's a good student, he adds something special to the class, he's respectful. Those things stand out more than his above average test results. And then there's Lolo. From his teacher....he's such a good kid, he's helpful, he listens, he cleans up, I'm proud of his progress. There ARE times I'm feeling good as a mom and I won't mention the other times ;0). But I think I just did.

Do I dare mention......good health. Just knocked on wood.

Good night.


  1. I am with you!! It's survival of the fittest... we can do it!!

  2. props to you girl - i don't know how you do it!

  3. I can totally relate. It is funny because if he is gone too much (and you are like me) when he is around you find yourself needing some space. Grateful for the help, but still wanting the freedom. It is much better to just have them around regularly. :)

  4. sorry to hear about the lonelies. they stink. you're amazing. love your pics. be strong.